Securely attached adults...
1. are comfortable with both intimacy and independence
2. do not often worry about their partners accepting them or about abandonment
3. have positive images of themselves and others
4. tend to be highly sociable
5. are open to expressing emotions in relationships
1. want close relationships, but have trouble trusting others
2. are torn between a desire for intimacy and a fear of sharing their emotions
3. have negative images of themselves and others
4. are hypersensitive to social approval, but avoid social situations
5. tend to emotionally retreat or fail to express their feelings
1. crave independence and claim that they do not need a relationship
2. seek less intimacy when in relationships
3. have a positive self-image, but a negative image of others
4. prefer to spend time away from the social scene
5. do not openly express their feelings with their partners
1. want intimacy in relationships, but tend to become way too dependent on others
2. can become obsessive when in a relationship
3. have a low opinion of themselves, but a high opinion of others
4. have a strong desire for approval from their mates
5. are extremely comfortable with their emotions and usually desire high levels of emotional disclosure, yet they consistently worry about whether their partners are accepting them
- Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment styles among young adults: A test of a four-category model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61, 226- 244.
- Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment (Attachment and loss, Vol 1). New York: Basic Books.
- Bowlby, J. (1973). Separation: Anxiety and anger (Attachment and loss, Vol. 2). New York: Basic Books.
- Bretherton, I. & Munholland, K. A. (1999). Internal working models in attachment relationships: A construct revisited. In J. Cassidy and P. R. Shaver (Eds.), Handbook of attachment: Theory, research, and clinical applications. Guilford Press.