wise love words: talk about it


As you've probably guessed by now, I believe that communication is vital to every relationship. So, whenever I read online articles about communication (and they're actually pretty good), I tend to love them! Last week, I found this article which provides some great tips on how to talk about safer sex practices with your partner. While the article is geared towards a younger crowd, I think it can easily be applied to people of all ages who are starting sexual and/or romantic relationships.



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quick love tip: make breakfast in bed


This weekend, wake up early and make breakfast in bed for your partner. You could make french toast, pancakes, waffles, or an omelet. Making your partner breakfast in bed is romantic and extremely thoughtful, especially if you make them something that they absolutely love. It shows them that you're willing to take the time to do something really nice for them. I know this sounds cheesy, but you could also get creative by making your pancakes or french toast heart-shaped or even writing "I love you" with the syrup. Whatever you decide to do, making your partner breakfast in bed is a great way to show them your appreciation.


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a love for halloween


It's almost Friday, October 31, Halloween is right around the corner, and love is in the air. Well, maybe love doesn't consume the air, but Halloween is definitely a holiday that many people really love. Whether it's eating all of those delicious Halloween treats, being scared at a haunted house, carving pumpkins, or dressing up as a sexy nurse, people love this holiday for many different reasons. 

I love Halloween too. BUT, I love "love" more. To honor my love of love and all things lovely, I thought I'd give you some love-themed Halloween costume ideas so that you too can incorporate your love for love into this spooky holiday.


First, you could be the Love Guru 
(a character from a Mike Myers movie).


You could also be a love bug.


Or a hippie who spreads peace and love.


Or a crew member from the Love Boat.


There's also this sexy woman with hearts all over her. 
This costume, by the way, is called the "prisoner of love" costume.


Last, but definitely not least is Lucille Ball from "I Love Lucy."


Whether you love Halloween or you just love "love" (which I'm assuming you do because you read this blog), dressing up can be fun for anyone at any age.

So, what are YOU planning to be this Halloween?

monday morning survey: self-disclosure test



So, I've been writing about self-disclosure a lot in recent posts (it's one of my favorite things to talk about). I thought that this week's Monday Morning Survey should also follow this trend. You can take this online survey to find out more about your own self-disclosure behaviors. Enjoy!


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getting to know you


A great way to begin new relationships and enhance relationships you're already involved in is to engage in reciprocal self-disclosure. Self-disclosure has been defined by researchers as the process of revealing information about yourself to others (Verderber et al., 2007). The information that is disclosed is typically described as new. In other words, when you self-disclose about yourself, it usually involves information that other people don't already know about. Additionally, self-disclosure involves risk and vulnerability on the part of the discloser. It's risky to disclose personal information about ourselves. We tend to wonder whether we're disclosing too much at once or whether we're getting too personal too quickly.


There are many reasons why people may self-disclose. You may self-disclose to express yourself, to build your relationship, to support someone else, or to get something off your chest. You could also self-disclose to gain information from someone else (i.e. if you disclose something to your friend, she will likely also disclose something to you), to make someone feel comfortable (i.e. "You know, I wrecked my first car too"), or even to hurt someone's feelings (i.e. "I never liked you anyway!"). Whatever your reason, self-disclosure is an important aspect of each and every one of our lives.

When you're self-disclosing, you're not just revealing the information in your message. You're also allowing people to make inferences about you based on what you say. For instance, if you disclose to someone that you like to scrapbook, they might infer that you like doing other crafty things like making homemade greeting cards or decorating your home or cooking gourmet meals.

As I've blogged about before, there are some "rules" to self-disclosing:
  • 1. Make sure that disclosures are appropriate to the topic at hand and fit the flow of the conversation. You want to reduce anxiety in initial interactions, not cause it. If your conversation partner is talking about where he or she is from, you probably shouldn't bring up your pesky drug habit. It doesn't fit or connect with what your partner was talking about. It'll just make the conversation awkward.
  • 2. Begin with safe, nonrisky disclosures. Don't begin a conversation by disclosing that you were in jail for grand theft auto when you were 20 or that you like going to swinger's clubs. Save this information for later. Instead, start off by disclosing where you're from, where you went to school, or what your hobbies are.
  • 3. Disclose in small doses. There are two parts to this guideline. First, don't disclose everything about yourself all at once. Like I said earlier, save some stuff for later. Second, don't monopolize the conversation. Let the other person disclose some information about him/herself too.
  • 4. Match the level and amount of the other's disclosure. Again, you don't want to create an awkward situation by disclosing something very personal about yourself when the conversation is not headed in that direction. For instance, if your conversation partner is talking about his or her hometown, it would be appropriate for the conversation to logically move to how many siblings you have because these two topics are at about the same level of intimateness. However, for most people, it would not be appropriate for the conversation about hometowns to shift towards talking about religious beliefs. In the same respect, you should try to match the other person's amount of self-disclosure. For instance, it would be inappropriate for you to disclose for 20 minutes when your partner has only disclosed for 2 or 3.
  • 5. Remember that style of disclosure is as important as substance. Be conscious of your paralanguage and nonverbal behaviors. The way you say something can influence your message. So, think about your tone, pitch, rate, use of sarcasm, and body gestures when self-disclosing.
  • 6. Reserve your most important disclosures for significant, ongoing relationships. Don't just tell anyone that you like to watch porn every Tuesday night. You might want to save that one for someone you feel really close to.

In 1997, Arthur Aron and his colleagues created a self-disclosure task to study whether strangers could feel close to each other after disclosing information about themselves. The researchers paired up individuals who did not know each other and gave them three sheets of paper. Each sheet had a series of questions on it. These questions got increasingly more personal in nature as the study progressed. The participants were instructed to read one question at a time and then both people were supposed to answer the first question before moving onto the second question and so on. The study showed that after only about 35 minutes of participating in the self-disclosure task, individuals experienced significant feelings of closeness with their partners, with many people stating a strong desire to start friendships with their partners.


Because I think the self-disclosure task is really interesting, I thought it would be fun to include some of the questions that Aron et al. (1997) had their participants answer. These are, by the way, in order from least personal to most personal. You and your partner could learn a lot about each other by answering these questions:






  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • What would constitute a "perfect day" for you?
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
  • What was the most embarrassing moment in your life?
  • When did you last cry in front of another person?
  • What, if anything, do you think is too serious to joke about?
  • If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
  • Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing and why?


Whether you're talking to your friend or to your significant other, engaging in self-disclosure interactions, like the self-disclosure task by Aron et al. (1997), can increase feelings of closeness and intimacy between the two of you. But remember to follow the self-disclosure tips discussed above or your conversation may not turn out the way you want it to.


References:
  • Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23, 363- 377.
  • Verderber, K. S., Verderber, R. F., & Berryman-Fink, C. (2007). Inter-act: Interpersonal communication concepts, skills, and contexts (11th edition). New York: Oxford University Press.

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spice it up!



Last week, I blogged about going on a unique date with your partner to keep things interesting. Well, this week, I read an article by Aron et al. (2000) that further emphasized the importance of this recent love tip

I'm sure that many of you would agree that doing fun things with your partner is good for your relationship. However, you probably didn't know that researchers have actually found evidence to support this idea. While it may be obvious, engaging in new, interesting, and exciting activities with your partner is very beneficial to your relationship.

In 2000, Arthur Aron and his colleagues conducted five separate studies to fully examine how participating in activities with your partner influences various aspects of your relationship's quality. In study one, participants completed a survey that mainly measured these three variables: (1) shared participation of new and exciting activities, (2) experienced relationship quality, and (3) the amount of boredom the participants experience in their relationships. Study two used the same questions from study one, but this time, the researchers went door-to-door to find participants. 

Studies one and two found a strong positive relationship between participating in new and exciting activities and experienced relationship quality. So, as the activities in your relationship increase in perceived newness and excitement, your experienced relationship quality also tends to increase. Likewise, as one variable decreases, the other also tends to decrease.


Unfortunately, these studies were only correlational in nature (i.e. the studies showed that the two variables were related, but they did not show which variable caused the other-- does increased relationship quality cause people to engage in more exciting activities OR does engaging in more exciting activities cause increased relationship quality?). Because of this, the researchers decided to conduct three more experimental studies to help shed some light on the cause-effect relationship between these two variables. 

Study three examined the impact that engaging in exciting and not-so-exciting activities has on experienced relationship quality. Twenty eight couples (24 dating & 4 married) participated. Each couple came the study location and completed relationship quality surveys (which measured things like relationship satisfaction & feelings of passionate love) in separate rooms. Then, they engaged in an activity together, which was either new & exciting (a fun obstacle course that they had to work together to complete) or boring & mundane (sitting on the floor and rolling a ball to a check point over and over again). Afterwards, they completed relationship quality surveys again.

They discovered that shared participation in novel-arousing activities, compared with shared participation in mundane activities, increased experienced relationship quality. Interestingly, participants' experienced relationship quality significantly increased after only about 10 minutes of engaging in the new and interesting activity!

Study four focused on only married couples. It was very similar to study three, except the participants were all married and there were three conditions instead of just two. This time, participants came to the lab, separately filled out experienced relationship quality surveys, and then engaged in either a new and exciting task, a boring and mundane task, or no task at all. Like study three, after they were finished with the activity, they completed experienced relationship quality surveys again.

The results from study four also revealed that when couples participated in the novel-arousing activity, their experienced relationship quality was increased. These couples' experienced relationship quality increased significantly more than couples who participated in boring and mundane actiities and couples who didn't participate in any activities.

The fifth and final study was similar to studies three and four, with a few revisions. Like study four, participants were all married. Once they arrived at the study location, the couples were first separated and asked to complete various relationship quality surveys. Second, the couples were reunited and asked to engage in a five minute videotaped discussion. They were instructed to plan a vacation together for five minutes. Once they were done with their discussion, they either egaged in the new and exciting activity or the boring and mundane activity (there was no control group this time). After the activity, they engaged in another five minute discussion. Here, they were asked to discuss the home improvements they would make if they were given $15,000. Lastly, the couple was separated again to complete various relationship quality surveys. To recap, the procedure was: surveys, discussion, activity, discussion, surveys.

The videotaped discussions were coded by researchers for various behaviors that expressed relationship quality.

Study five yeiled some interesting results. First, like the other studies, when couples engaged in the novel-arousing activity (compared to the boring activity), their relationship quality significantly increased from the first survey to the second survey. Second, when couples engaged in the novel-arousing activity (compared to the boring activity), the relationship quality behaviors that they expressed significantly increased from the first discussion to the second discussion. 


I know what you're thinking, "how can life always be new and exciting?" It doesn't have to be. The results from this study don't mean that every single thing that you ever do with your partner should be a new and exciting experience. Instead, this study does suggest that spicing up your relationship every once in a while is a really great thing. For instance, if you always go to Ruby Tuesday's for date night, you could spice things up by going to a Japanese steakhouse like Benihana's or a fondue restaurant like The Melting Pot instead. It will be a new experience, and if you've ever been to one of these restaurants before, you know that they're definitely exciting as well. You could also go bowling, play pool, go to a batting cage, or even play mini-golf, especially if they are not part of your usual routine.

Whatever activity you decide to do, the important part is that you do it with your partner and that it's new, interesting, and exciting for the both of you. 




Reference:
  • Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C. & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couple's shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78, 273- 284.

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book i love: getting the love you want


"When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage" (Amazon.com, 2008).

This is a great book for people who are looking for ways to solve their relationship problems, enhance communication with their partners, or improve their relationship satisfaction.

Here's the full description posted on amazon:
"As a result of his research, Hendrix created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. He expounds upon this approach in Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is "to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.""

And, the best part is that you can buy the book or the audio CD version on amazon for only about $5-10! There's even a workbook version.



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quick love tip: go on a unique date



Whether you've been together for 6 months or for 40 years, spending quality time with your partner can help build and maintain your relationship at any stage. Keeping things interesting is an important part of this process. This weekend, plan a unique date with your partner. You could find a corn maze in your area to explore, get a blanket and lay outside to watch the stars, or you could even go to the zoo for the day. Whatever you decide to do, spicing up your routine can help your relationship.

Click here and here to read about other great unique date ideas.

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monday morning survey: big five personality test



Your personality can affect numerous aspects of your life, including your relationship (see Cooper & Sheldon, 2002 for a review). In fact, research has shown that your personality is associated with how satisfied you are with your relationship and the amount and quality of intimacy you feel with your partner (White, Hendrick, & Hendrick, 2004). Researchers have identified five main personality characteristics, which they call the Big Five Personality Traits.

These traits fall into five broad dimensions, which include:
  • Extraversion: talkative, energetic, & assertive
  • Agreeableness: affectionate, sympathetic, & kind
  • Conscientiousness: thorough & organized
  • Neuroticism: anxious, tense, & moody
  • Openness to Experience: insightful, imaginative, & having a wide range of interests

When it comes to relationships, some of the most compelling research has found strong associations between neurotic individuals and numerous relationship variables, with high neuroticism usually damaging a married couple's level of relationship satisfaction (e.g., Robins, Caspi, & Moffitt, 2002; Watson, Hubbard, & Wiese, 2000; White et al., 2004). When looking for a romantic partner, most individuals tend to search for people who are low in neuroticism and high in openness (Zentner, 2005). Additionally, research has shown that as an individual's extraversion and agreeableness increases, their relationship satisfaction and feeling of intimacy in their relationship also increases (White et al., 2004).

Interestingly, research has revealed that individuals don't always desire relationships with people who have personalities similar to their own. Instead, individuals tend to place more value on how similar their potential mate's personality is to their idealized romantic partner's personality (Zentner, 2005).

You can find out where you fall on each personality dimension by taking this online survey.



References:
  • Cooper, M. L., & Sheldon, M. S. (2002). Seventy years of research on personality and close relationships: Substantive and methodological trends over time. Journal of Personality, 70, 783- 812.
  • Robins, R., Caspi, A., & Moffitt, T. (2002). It's not just who you are with, it's who you are: Personality and relationship experiences across multiple relationships. Journal of Personality, 70, 925- 964.
  • Watson, D., Hubbard, B., & Wiese, D. (2000). General traits of personality and affectivity as predictors of satisfaction in intimate relationships: Evidence from self and partner ratings. Journal of Personality, 68, 413- 449.
  • White, J. K., Hendrick, S. S., & Hendrick, C. (2004). Big five personality variables and relationship constructs. Personality and Individual Differences, 37, 1519-1530.
  • Zenter, M. R. (2005). Ideal mate personality concepts and compatibility in close relationships: A longitudinal analysis. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 89, 242-256.

For more information about the Big Five, see the following resources:

i've been tagged!



I recently received a comment from The Sassy Sexpert saying that I had been tagged. Wondering what the hell this meant, I follow the link she provided to here. Apparently, bloggers tag other bloggers to compliment them on their work. WOW! I was immediately impressed and felt really honored. Especially since I'm already an avid reader of her blog. I love her choice of topics, her openness, and her writing style. To be chosen by The Sassy Sexpert as a blog that she likes is awesome!

So, what's next? After being tagged by someone, the tagged individual is supposed to:
  • Link to the person who tagged you (That would be The Sassy Sexpert)
  • Share seven random and/or weird facts about yourself
  • Tag seven other people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs
  • Let each person know that they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Sounds fun! Here are my seven facts:
  1. I've been deathly terrified of needles for most of my life, yet I have my nose pierced. I recently went to therapy for 1 year to get over my fear of needles. I'm still relatively fearful, but I don't pass out anymore at the site of one.
  2. I once broke my rib by falling into a 8ft deep hole while walking through a construction site at night (long story).
  3. The Wizard of Oz is my favorite movie of all time. I could, and actually do, watch it over and over and over. My parents have always told me that when I was very young I sometimes would watch it 3-5 times in a row. Going along with that, I have numerous Wizard of Oz memorabilia (i.e. figurines, dolls, toys, games, towels, photos, posters, books, blankets, etc.). I even named my dog Toto.
  4. My first, and most favorite, car was a 1989 Chevy Blazer, which I bought in 1998. Since then, I have owned two more Chevy Blazers. One of which is my current everyday driver (you know, the only car that works right now).
  5. I never lived in a dorm during college (which, by the way, I've been in for 8+ years) and I've never lived in an apartment. I lived in the same house my whole life until I was 18 and then I've always rented a house off campus with friends or the Hus.
  6. I try not to take myself too seriously. Life is too short to be so somber and highbrow all of the time. Laughter plays a big role in my life.
  7. I love chocolate. Milk chocolate, dark chocolate, chocolate cupcakes, chocolate milk, chocolate anything!

And, these are the blogs i absolutely love...

wise love words: my boobs are not squeeze toys


















Check out this hilarious article called, "My boobs are not squeeze toys: 8 tips for more action in the bedroom." The title says it all.



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quit your pickin'




Over the last few weeks, all but one of our four cars have stopped being able to get us from point A to point B for one reason or another. (Which, by the way, doesn't include the Hus' [aka- my husband's] dream car that's on jack stands in the garage. So technically, all but one of our five cars don't work. Why do we have five cars? That's another story for another time. I digress.)

monday morning survey: the sexuality scale



Sexuality is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, many individuals are uncomfortable engaging in sexual experiences, discussions, and even thoughts. Whether you're worried about the pleasure (or lack of pleasure) you experience during sex, your own abilities as a sexual partner, the amount of time (big or small) that you spend thinking or fantasizing about sex, or your body image, many of us have concerns about some aspect of our sexualities at different times in our lives. Take this survey below to learn more about your attitudes towards human sexuality.


The Sexuality Scale
(Snell & Papini, 1989)


INSTRUCTIONS
Get out a piece of paper. Number that piece of paper from 1 to 30. Rate each of the following statements based on the degree to which you agree or disagree with it, using the following scale:

1 = disagree
2 = slightly disagree
3 = neither agree nor disagree
4 = slightly agree
5 = agree


1. I am a good sexual partner.
2. I am depressed about the sexual aspects of my life.
3. I think about sex all of the time.
4. I would rate my sexual skill quite highly.
5. I feel good about my sexuality.
6. I think about sex more than anything else.
7. I am better at sex than most other people.
8. I am disappointed about the quality of my sex life.
9. I don't daydream about sexual situations.
10. I sometimes have doubts about my sexual competence.
11. Thinking about sex makes me happy.
12. I tend to be preoccupied with sex.
13. I am not very confident in sexual encounters.
14. I derive pleasure and enjoyment from sex.
15. I'm constantly thinking about having sex.
16. I think of myself as a very good sexual partner.
17. I feel down about my sex life.
18. I think about sex a great deal of the time.
19. I would rate myself low as a sexual partner.
20. I feel unhappy about my sexual relationships.
21. I seldom think about sex.
22. I am confident about myself as a sexual partner.
23. I feel pleased with my sex life.
24. I hardly ever fantasize about having sex.
25. I am not very confident about my sexual skill.
26. I feel sad when I think about my sexual experiences.
27. I probably think about sex less often than most people.
28. I sometimes doubt my sexual competence.
29. I am not discouraged about sex.
30. I don't think about sex very often.


MORE INSTRUCTIONS: There are two main steps to figuring out your score.

Step One: "Reverse code" thirteen of the thirty items. Basically, this means that if you put 1, make it a 5, and if you put a 5, make it a 1, and so on.
  • 1 = 5 & 5 = 1
  • 2 = 4 & 4 = 2
  • 3 = 3
Do this "reverse-coding" for item #s 5, 9, 10, 13, 19, 21, 23, 24, 25, 27, 28, 29, & 30.

Step Two: The Sexuality Scale is comprised of three subscales including, sexual esteem, sexual depression, and sexual preoccupation. Add up the numbers you put (using the reverse-coded numbers) for each item in each subscale. Higher scores in a subscale indicate higher levels of the quality in question.
  • Sexual Esteem: #s 1, 4, 7, 10, 13, 16, 19, 22, 25, & 28
  • Sexual Depression: #s 2, 5, 8, 17, 20, 23, 26, & 29
  • Sexual Preoccupation: #s 3, 6, 9, 12, 15, 18, 21, 24, 27, & 30

What do each of these subscales mean?
First, Sexual Esteem refers to positive feelings about one's ability to relate sexually to another person. Second, Sexual Depression involves feelings of sadness and discouragement about one's difficulties in relating sexually to another person (basically the opposite of Sexual Esteem). Lastly, the Sexual Preoccupation scale is pretty self-explanatory. It refers to how much an individual is distracted by thinking and/ or fantasizing about sexual experiences.

Sexual Esteem tends to be highly associated with amount of sexual experience, with men usually reporting higher Sexual Esteem than women (Snell & Papini, 1989). People with high Sexual Esteem (a score of 40 or above is in the 70th percentile and a score of 45 or above is in the 85th percentile*) have what Snell and Papini call a "communal approach to sex." Basically, this means that people high in Sexual Esteem tend to openly approach sex with a sense of honesty. In addition, these people view sex as something that should be pleasurable for both people involved and that achieving this goal requires cooperation from both people. On the other hand, people low in sexual esteem (a score of 32 or below is in the 30th percentile and a score of 28 or below is in the 15th percentile*) are more likely to have either an exchange view of sex (i.e., "you do this for me, and I'll do that for you") or believe that it is necessary to manipulate and sometimes even deceive a partner to get what one wants.

*See my post about your relationship's romantic potential for an explanation of percentiles.*

When it comes to the Sexual Depression subscale, individuals with high scores (a score of 25 or higher is in the 85th percentile) are likely to be very anxious about sex and may even feel some guilt towards sex. In addition, these individuals are less likely to be involved in romantic and/ or sexual relationships, which is likely due to the insecurities and doubts they have about relationships. Individuals with low scores on this dimension tend to feel more secure in their sexual relationships and sexual abilities.

Men tend to have higher Sexual Preoccupation scores than women. In fact, Snell and Panini (1989) found that the average score for men on this dimension was 2 times as much as the average score for women. Individuals who score high on this scale (a score of 34 or higher for women or a score of 39 or higher for men are in the 85th percentile) tend to be more sensitive to their sexual emotions and feelings and are less likely to be involved in a long-term relationship than those who score lower on this scale (a score of 18 or lower for women or a score of 25 or lower for men are in the 15th percentile).

If you find that you scored lower than the 15th percentile for Sexual Esteem, higher than the 85th percentile for Sexual Depression, or lower than the 15th percentile for Sexual Preoccupation, you may want to reevaluate your feelings towards sexuality. One way to begin this process is to understand your sexual self. Once you become more aware of your own sexuality, you may begin to approach sexual encounters more positively. As Sue Johanson (a fav person of mine) has said, "Sex is perfectly natural, but not naturally perfect."



References
  • Janda, L. (1996). Love and sex tests: 24 revealing love, sex, ad relationship tests developed by psychologists. Holbrook, MA: Adams Media Corporation.
  • Snell, W. E., & Papini, D. R. (1989). The sexuality scale: An instrument to measure sexual-esteem, sexual-depression, and sexual-preoccupation. The Journal of Sex Research, 26, 256- 263.

For more information about sexuality, see the following resources:

quick love tip: take a walk

Take a walk with your significant other. Get away from the television, the cell phones, and the computers. Go for a walk in your neighborhood, in a nearby park, or on the beach if you're lucky enough to be near one. During your walk, you could hold hands, profess your love for each other, or even take this time to talk about sex :-)

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wise love words: the benefits of good relationships rival exercise and nutrition


We all know that good relationships seem to be essential in our lives. But have you ever thought about why? Check out this great article about how good relationships are extremely beneficial to each and every one of us.



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