Talking about day-to-day happenings and sharing your inner most thoughts and feelings with your significant other are both extremely important to the success of your relationship. And in addition to those conversations, you want to also periodically check-in with one another about your relationship- where it stands, how it’s working out for both of you, and where it’s going. You want to communicate about your relationship and even about the status of the communication in your relationship. Talking to your partner about these things, while it may be difficult at times, will hopefully help save your relationship from the dissatisfaction plague by nipping any concerns that one (or both) of you has in the bud. If you are able to effectively talk about them before they become out-of-control relationship issues, you will not only become more satisfied in your relationship and in your relationship’s communication, but your relationship will likely be strengthened in the process.
Everyone always wants to know where their relationship stands, how satisfied their partners are, and maybe most importantly, where the relationship is going. So many times, partners are not on the same page here. One partner may have very strong romantic feelings and thoughts of marriage (or continuation of marriage), while the other partner is thinking about hitting the road in a few months. For many people, it’s scary to openly and honestly discuss this topic with their mates. But research shows that checking in with your partner and discussing the status of your relationship or marriage can easily repair romances that are in trouble (Dindia & Baxter, 1987) because of the notion that communication about your relationship usually functions to resolve conflict (Braiker & Kelley, 1979).
Make sure that you regularly talk with your partner about your relationship. Keeping the lines of communication open through out your entire relationship and marriage will ultimately improve your overall relationship satisfaction and maybe even repair a damaged marriage. It may feel like you’re constantly talking, but believe me, your relationship will thank you for working hard to maintain these difficult conversations.
- Braiker, H. B., & Kelley, H. H. (1979). Conflict in the development of close relationships. In R. L. Burgess & T. L. Huston (Eds.), Social exchange in developing relationships. New York: Academic Press.
- Dindia, K., & Baxter, L. (1987). Strategies for maintaining and repairing marital relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 4, 143-158.