Researchers have identified numerous strategies that individuals use to further develop a new relationship or intensify an old one (see Dindia & Timmerman, 2004 for a review). Now this may seem obvious to many of you, but spending time together by increasing the frequency and duration of contact you have with your significant other is one of the best ways to escalate your relationship (Clark et al., 1999; Miell & Duck, 1986). While some scholars (Guldner & Swensen, 1995) have argued that the amount of time a couple spends together does not by itself play a role in relationship maintenance (there are MANY other components to relationship development),
The take-home message here is to make time for your partner. It will be very difficult for your relationship to survive if you don't.
- Clark, C. L., Shaver, P. R., & Abrahams, M. F. (1999). Strategic behaviors in romantic relationship initiation. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 25, 709-722.
- Dindia, K., & Timmerman L. (2004). Accomplishing romantic relationships. In J. O. Greene and B. R. Burleson's (Eds.) Handbook of communication and social interaction skills. Lawrence Erlbaum: Mahwah, NJ.
- Guldner, G. T., & Swensen, C. H. (1995). Time spent together and relationship quality: Long-distance relationships as a test case. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 12, 313-320.
- Miell, D. & Duck, S. (1986). Strategies in friendship development. In V. J. Derlega & B. A. Winstead (Eds.), Friendship and social interaction (pp. 129-143). New York: Springer-Verlag.