making a list and checking it twice: 29 things to do before you tie the knot



  1. Talk about how many children you each want. And talk about why you feel the way you do.
  2. Go on one last vacation as an unmarried couple.
  3. Read a book about how or why marriages fail. Try THIS ONE. And talk to each other about how you plan to deal with any of the issues you read about.
  4. Write a love letter to give to your partner the night before your wedding.
  5. Figure out how you each prefer to spend and save money.
  6. Create a budget and make a plan about how you money is actually going to be spent.
  7. Talk about experiences from your past where you both had fun and laughed together. Interestingly, reminiscing about laughter from your shared past can significantly improve your relationship satisfaction.
  8. Write out a list of reasons why you want to marry your partner and keep it somewhere private for you to read to yourself whenever you are angry with your mate in the future.
  9. Take a long walk by yourselves; no cell phones allowed.
  10. Go on a date to a place you have never been together.
  11. Go for a drive and show your partner where you grew up. Talk about your fondest memories as a kid and maybe even go out to eat at a local restaurant that's still around.
  12. Go see where your partner grew up.
  13. Talk about three things you learned from your parents that you hope to use when parenting your own children.
  14. Make an agreement about marriage. For instance, Hus and I have always said that we would never go to bed angry and that we would never throw around threats of divorce in the heat of an argument. Try to find 5 to 10 marriage rules that you can agree upon.
  15. Read a book about saving your marriage. Try THIS ONE. It's ah-mazing.
  16. Discuss how you each would like to divide up holidays between your respective families.
  17. Tell your partner about things that typically stress you out or piss you off. And discuss how you like to be approached during those times (Do you like to be left alone, be hugged, talk about it, or something else?)
  18. Agree to disagree. You are not always going to agree on everything in marriage. The sooner you figure that out, the better.
  19. Do something fun together that makes you feel like kids again. You could go roller/ice skating, to a pumpkin patch, or a carnival.
  20. Write a happiness journal during the month prior to your wedding. Each day, write down one sentence about something that made you happy that day. It's nice to look back at this later and remember what made you happy in the days leading up to your wedding.
  21. Divide up the household chores. Play on each other's strengths and likes when choosing jobs.
  22. Find a hobby that fulfils you. And keep it up after marriage.
  23. Pay off as much of your debt as possible.
  24. Talk about your in-laws. How often do you want to see them? Are they going to be highly involved, moderately involved, or only mildly involved in your new life together? What does that mean?
  25. Have a wild night out on the town with your spouse-to-be.
  26. Talk about your 1 year, 5 year, and 10 year plans. When do you want to have kids? Where do you hope to live? What do you hope to be doing?
  27. Read a book about maintaining your marriage. Try MY BOOK.
  28. Make sure he or she is the one.
  29. Promise to always work your hardest to keep your marriage in tact. And to try everything if things start to go downhill. Don't just give up.



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1 comment:

Rebecca Dohrman said...

This is a great post! A must-read for all engaged couples!

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